Case I :
Seema's residence:
Rajiv's family arrived to see seema so that they can tie rajiv and seema in a pure and sacred relationship for the whole life.
How unique and pure this relation of marriage happens to be.
Two people spend their whole life with complete devotion, trust and love towards each other.
They share their happiness and sorrow with each other and support each other at each stage of life.
But some dirty elements ruin the PURITY of this relation by things like DOWRY.
"Aji hume toh kuch nahi chahie par jo b hi aap doge aapki beti ke hi kaam aayega" rajiv's family exclaimed to seema's family indirectly demanding for dowry.
And seema's family had no other option than accepting the terms and conditions of rajiv's family.
Afterall every parent wants that their daughter remain happy and blessed after her marriage and for that purpose they sacrifice their own heritage to gift it to their daughter.
Case II :
Rashmi's family was preparing for her marriage with siddharth.
Their happiness was at its peak because they were going to marry the blessing of their life and alongwith this happiness there was a satisfaction in the mind and heart of rashmi's parents. They were feeling very lucky on getting a groom for their daughter who dont believe in dowry system, whose family has so high and noble thinking.
*After rashmi's marriage*
Rashmi just woke up. It was her first day in her In-Law's house. She was expecting a treatment where she would be given lots of love and respect but her mother-in-law came and scolded her brutally for sleeping so late and forced her to engage in household work.
And from that day the only thing she got there was just TORTURE, HUMILIATION and violence to force her to get money from her home.
But she never said anything to her family because she knew they wont be able to afford the demands of her in-laws.
After one year, when her tolerance limit vanished, she burnt herself to get rid of the everyday frustation by her in-laws.
The girl lost her life because of her marriage and her family lost the essence of their life
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According to Indian National Crime Record Bureau, in 2010, 8391 dowry death cases were reported across india, meaning a bride was burned every 90 minutes. According to Indian police, every year it receives over 2,500 reports of bride-burning. The Indian National Crime Records Bureau (NCRB) reports that there were about 8172 dowry death cases registered in India in 2008. Incidents of dowry deaths during the year 2008 (8172) have increased by 14.4 per cent over 1998 level (7146).
Why do boys' family demand DOWRY from the family of the girl. Are they selling their son, if so then their son should remain at the girl's residence and act like a servant. Can the family of the boy send their son to act like a servant for the whole life time.
Or they are demanding for DOWRY because their son is not able to fulfill the responsibility of being a husband? If a boy cant fulfill his financial responsibilities towards his would be life partner then he has no right to marry girl and ruin her life. Where is the self respect of the guy that he is begging for money from the girl's family.
Even girl's family agree for DOWRY thinking it would help in keeping their daughter happy and blessed after her marriage but they remain unaware of the fct that by giving DOWRY they are themselves spoiling life of their daughter. And the basic question is why do they agree for DOWRY. They are giving their girl to another family for the whole life and giving money and materialistic things for that? WHY ? Is their daughter a burden over them? Are they giving DOWRY to get rid of the burden?
NO.
Although there are rules and regulations regarding DOWRY PROHIBITION from the side of government but these rules are in vain if they cant be applied properly by common man.
This is high time when we need to change the circumstances and it needs efforts of everyone, efforts of boys' family by not demanding or accepting DOWRY, efforts of girl's family that they deny marrying their daughter in a greedy family for whom DOWRY is the cost of a girl's life and most of all their is need of efforts by us, by youngsters. We guys and girls need to take oath that we wont support DOWRY during our marriage and would try to make people around us also understand that marriage is a unison of two people, two families.
Its not a BUSINESS and so let it be a sacred ceremony that fills happiness in people's lives and not fil their eyes with tears and heart with pain.
People here are saying that writing wont affect anything but we think that it can make a lot of changes, we can think we can first change ourselves and then inspire others for few steps of changes as initiative so that big steps can be provoked by these small changes. So whosoever agree with me, lets take a vow taht either a girl or a boy we are we wont support dowry in our marriages..
Aa_ku (kuku)
Seema's residence:
Rajiv's family arrived to see seema so that they can tie rajiv and seema in a pure and sacred relationship for the whole life.
How unique and pure this relation of marriage happens to be.
Two people spend their whole life with complete devotion, trust and love towards each other.
They share their happiness and sorrow with each other and support each other at each stage of life.
But some dirty elements ruin the PURITY of this relation by things like DOWRY.
"Aji hume toh kuch nahi chahie par jo b hi aap doge aapki beti ke hi kaam aayega" rajiv's family exclaimed to seema's family indirectly demanding for dowry.
And seema's family had no other option than accepting the terms and conditions of rajiv's family.
Afterall every parent wants that their daughter remain happy and blessed after her marriage and for that purpose they sacrifice their own heritage to gift it to their daughter.
Case II :
Rashmi's family was preparing for her marriage with siddharth.
Their happiness was at its peak because they were going to marry the blessing of their life and alongwith this happiness there was a satisfaction in the mind and heart of rashmi's parents. They were feeling very lucky on getting a groom for their daughter who dont believe in dowry system, whose family has so high and noble thinking.
*After rashmi's marriage*
Rashmi just woke up. It was her first day in her In-Law's house. She was expecting a treatment where she would be given lots of love and respect but her mother-in-law came and scolded her brutally for sleeping so late and forced her to engage in household work.
And from that day the only thing she got there was just TORTURE, HUMILIATION and violence to force her to get money from her home.
But she never said anything to her family because she knew they wont be able to afford the demands of her in-laws.
After one year, when her tolerance limit vanished, she burnt herself to get rid of the everyday frustation by her in-laws.
The girl lost her life because of her marriage and her family lost the essence of their life
------------------------------------------------
According to Indian National Crime Record Bureau, in 2010, 8391 dowry death cases were reported across india, meaning a bride was burned every 90 minutes. According to Indian police, every year it receives over 2,500 reports of bride-burning. The Indian National Crime Records Bureau (NCRB) reports that there were about 8172 dowry death cases registered in India in 2008. Incidents of dowry deaths during the year 2008 (8172) have increased by 14.4 per cent over 1998 level (7146).
Why do boys' family demand DOWRY from the family of the girl. Are they selling their son, if so then their son should remain at the girl's residence and act like a servant. Can the family of the boy send their son to act like a servant for the whole life time.
Or they are demanding for DOWRY because their son is not able to fulfill the responsibility of being a husband? If a boy cant fulfill his financial responsibilities towards his would be life partner then he has no right to marry girl and ruin her life. Where is the self respect of the guy that he is begging for money from the girl's family.
Even girl's family agree for DOWRY thinking it would help in keeping their daughter happy and blessed after her marriage but they remain unaware of the fct that by giving DOWRY they are themselves spoiling life of their daughter. And the basic question is why do they agree for DOWRY. They are giving their girl to another family for the whole life and giving money and materialistic things for that? WHY ? Is their daughter a burden over them? Are they giving DOWRY to get rid of the burden?
NO.
Although there are rules and regulations regarding DOWRY PROHIBITION from the side of government but these rules are in vain if they cant be applied properly by common man.
This is high time when we need to change the circumstances and it needs efforts of everyone, efforts of boys' family by not demanding or accepting DOWRY, efforts of girl's family that they deny marrying their daughter in a greedy family for whom DOWRY is the cost of a girl's life and most of all their is need of efforts by us, by youngsters. We guys and girls need to take oath that we wont support DOWRY during our marriage and would try to make people around us also understand that marriage is a unison of two people, two families.
Its not a BUSINESS and so let it be a sacred ceremony that fills happiness in people's lives and not fil their eyes with tears and heart with pain.
People here are saying that writing wont affect anything but we think that it can make a lot of changes, we can think we can first change ourselves and then inspire others for few steps of changes as initiative so that big steps can be provoked by these small changes. So whosoever agree with me, lets take a vow taht either a girl or a boy we are we wont support dowry in our marriages..
Aa_ku (kuku)
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