*Shemales* - They are also part of Society.. !

Few days back I saw a Tv program on - Issues faced by Shemales. And trust me it was horrible. when I tried to search it on Net, all I got is dirty things about Shemales. Most of the results were showing them as Shemale by choice. As they prefer to be Shemales. Few sites also showed them as Porn stars. What the hell..? I mean did you ever tried to go to them and ask them personally..? Are they like this by their choice..? Hell NO. They are not like this by their choice. It was GOD who created them like this. And so they are left with no option. No one will be happy to known as PORN STAR by their choice.

Whenever we see Shemales we laugh on them, We pass comments about them. We prefer to stay away from them. Have you ever tried to understand them..? They are also human beings, seeking for Love. They also deserve some respect. They also seeks some relations. If we are blessed with normal lives than it does not mean at all that We can make a joke of some one. If you are created by God, so they are also. Than why to differentiate..? They also have equal right to live like Us. But I guess due to our old thinking we are doing big injustice to them.

A shemale is some one who born as male but identifies with the female class and most often has characteristics of a female. Generally a shemale refers to a transwoman, which is a male with characteristics of a female that eventually begins to live as a woman. Most of the shemale's have more feminine characteristics and sometimes will even have female genitalia as well.

Our society does not accept them.This has a drastic affect on the life of the shemale and they face many issues in society that can devastate their life. Society does not have a good understanding of these individuals and they are often targets of cruel and harsh punishment. There are many jokes and issues of poking fun and very subservient treatment to shemales.

If they are different it doesnt mean they cant be with Us. They also want Family like Us. They also need Friends, They also wish to have a Normal life. Why we people are so narrow minded that we react more on how some one look like rather than knowing them from inner side.? How can we be so cruel that we snatch their rights to Live..? How can we decide that some one should not live their life as they want..?

Lets Promise one thing today, If we cant be their friends, We wont make fun of them. Because even they have feelings, and it hurts a lot. Lets try to change our mind sets for Shemales.

Khushi 

A deliberate onslaught on gender equality...

"The place of women in Indian society ."
 The image that is formed in our minds when we think about " women " . Gender equality means the treatment given to a man and a woman , being fair and equal . The simultaneous existance only proves that women are as equal and able as man . Those of us who deal with children know better . We know little girls love their dolls and boys just want to kick that ball . This doesn’t mean men can’t take care of babies or women can’t play sports . It just means each gender has its own energy that flows in a specific direction . For God’s sake, let it flow .

On a little lighter note ( which is truer then anything else ) let me tell you , " It Is So Not Easy Being A Women " points .
Being a women means facing those undress-you-eyes , gazing from top of your body to slim legs .
It is really difficult to put stockings on , to walk in high heels , to spend two hours in front of a mirror , to spend five hours on the phone .
Women are more sensitive then men . Crying over petty issues and then feeling better after relieving the stress , ain't as easy at it seems .
Women worry about the dark-circles , the shape of thier body , the hairstyle to suit them , the clothes that they wear and many such things . Yet what a boy sees in her , is her rear .
To bear the most intriguing pain every month and be in those Bad Mood or Mood swing time . The irritation , no guy can ever understand .
To carry a life in your stomach and deliver it after nine months . Vommits , breathlessness , nausea , women face it all just to see the Smiling face of her infant .
If a woman decides not to get married, then she can do whatever she wants , but the minute she says "I do" , she has to follow the Old Testaments .
The guys can go out for Nytouts and spend time Drinking with their friends and feel safe . But a women , she can't be Safe in day time and being all in her senses too .
She can't wear the comfortable clothing and can't move around as and when she wants without asking the permission of elders , unlike her Brothers and other Males at her place .
A man would need a virgin to marry , himself sleeping with every girl that comes along .
A girl can not go and watch the movie of her choice publically , if it has a bit adult content , just because her parents would be worried of , What if smone saw her ?
Before she crosses her tender childhood , she's made to adjust on little things just for the sake of peace after Marriage .
More then her education and her spirits in life , still the thing looked upon is the shape of her chapatis , by her to be in-laws for marriage .
If a women plans to study after marriage or achieve some high posts in the later life , there are chances that she will stay spinster all her life .
Women can manage both , home and her workplace , very efficiently . But only ! when she is allowed to do so .
~ A women bears this all , without a sign of disheartenment on her face . The soul reason being Gender Inequality . The mentality ' women being nowhere , but behind the men ' is the cause . A women is grown up , still , with the primary lesson to respect her man and not try to equalise him in any aspect .

A women is not born to be walked over or stepped on , by men . She's born to walk with him Shoulder-to-Shoulder . To every man that believes he doesn't need women , he is reminded " He's born out of A women , only " . Men can not be working without women . They can't even live in a clean house to have some space to sit , if there is no female to live with them . If a woman were to go up to a man in a bar and ask if he wants to sleep with him , I bet the man will instantly jump at that opportunity . Given that a man were to do the same thing to a woman he meets in a bar , he will likely to get slapped on his face and get thrown out of the bar . Women have pangs of conscience and do not go to a wrong path as compared to men . They also play many roles in her lifetime . A man should marry a woman , not because she is a looker or amazing in bed (she used to be both) , but because she will be willing to sacrifice her own advancement in life for him . It doesn't mean she has to be a housewife that stays home and gets fat while memorizing soap opera dialogue, it just means she is there strong as brick to support him . Women are their loved one's biggest fan , loudest cheerleader , and life’s leaning pole . Children grow up in the care of their mothers . His mother fondly feeds him with milk , pats him and cradles him . The baby in time , grows up into a Fine young man or women , who may even rule the world. It is to be remembered that the greatest conquerors of the world , had all been helpless babies once . Cherishing is a good thing , no one does it better than females .

Value a women , to be valuing yourself . Educate her so that , She can educate the youth . Love her , cuz she will love you back more then you could imagine . Respect her , cuz she brought into this world . Spend time with her , cuz you'll learn a lot about life . Give her equal importance , not becuz I am saying . Because , she's worth it 

 Mahi 

#A Feminist 
The sleepovers, the parties, the boys, the tears, the dances, the heartbreaks, the carpools, the shopping excursions, the drama ! I wouldn’t trade a minute of it for a million bucks .

ILLITERACY : It is not a trivial issue!!!

OPEN YOUR EYES so that those kids who are deprived of "education" can open "books"...!!

Education would perhaps not solve "ALL" problems... But it could stop making things "WORSE"...!!

Education : One of the most important words but equally underestimated...

No education --> Child Labour --> No employment --> Poverty --> Frustration --> Social vices --> Gambling --> ALCOHOL --> Inability to think radically --> Responsibilities overlooked --> Unhappy family --> Unhappy people --> Unhappy nation...!!!

This could sound absurd and unrealistic but mostly all these issues are somewhere or the other linked with each other!!!

It is imperative for everyone in the nation to be "educated", "Educated" enough to realize what is he doing...

Is he on the "right path" or has he taken to a wrong one...
The answer to this can only be given by instilling the basic values in a child...

How will this be possible???

When everyday inflation touches new skies, it is not really practically possible for everyone to "afford" studies....

But this problem has a solution...

At individual level, we can impart education for free to the kids serving at the tea stalls or the kids selling various things at the traffic signals...

If we are financially enough stable, we can even take the responsibility of education for at least "1" of such kids...

If everyone would make such simple efforts from his/her side, we could curb child labour upto a certain extent and even bring an end to education... So two targets at a single shot!!!

By reading this, you would be thinking what miracle would educating one child do???

But if everyone does it for 1 child each, it would be really worth all the efforts...!!

Have you ever imagined how a child "working" at the tea stall would be feeling when people ill-treat him???

"Aye pappu, chai la..."

How he would be feeling when he would not be given enough money for working hard throughout the day..?

He deserves a good upbringing...
He deserves education just like everyone else...

If our constitution has the guidelines of right to "equality", that kid also should not be deprived of that right...!!

At the government level, [ if anyone is reading this ] please give grant to more government schools...
Actually this is possible only if there is no black money and no corruption...
So basically this is a vicious cycle which needs to be corrected from its very roots ...

We can start the process from "EDUCATION"...!!

Make EDUCATION be in the reach of "common man"...

Don't make "education" a business and luxury...
It is a necessity and it is "your" responsibility!!!
It is, in fact, our responsibility as educated and mature citizens of the country...!

That kid deserves to study, play and have a "childhood" where he's free from all worries... He's not supposed to EARN and look after his family ... Atleast not when he's hardly 10 years old...!!

Belonging to a "poor family" is not a good excuse to justify his plight!!!
It is important to inculcate the things called "morals", "ethics" and "values" in him so that he can become a responsible citizen of the country...!!

Another important thing is educating females as well as males equally...
Don't let your beloved daughter wash dishes while your son gets ready to go to school...
Your daughter too could make her parents proud!!!!!

This won't happen by reading talks of wisdom or writing long status updates...
We've to get up and get going... Do whatever bit of help we can!!!
We've to do something concrete in the name of education...

Only then we can create the India of our imagination!!!

- DiSha @ A Stand For Our Country - Our India

*Marriage- its not a business*

Case I :

Seema's residence:

Rajiv's family arrived to see seema so that they can tie rajiv and seema in a pure and sacred relationship for the whole life.
How unique and pure this relation of marriage happens to be.
Two people spend their whole life with complete devotion, trust and love towards each other.
They share their happiness and sorrow with each other and support each other at each stage of life.
But some dirty elements ruin the PURITY of this relation by things like DOWRY.

"Aji hume toh kuch nahi chahie par jo b hi aap doge aapki beti ke hi kaam aayega" rajiv's family exclaimed to seema's family indirectly demanding for dowry.
And seema's family had no other option than accepting the terms and conditions of rajiv's family.
Afterall every parent wants that their daughter remain happy and blessed after her marriage and for that purpose they sacrifice their own heritage to gift it to their daughter.

Case II :

Rashmi's family was preparing for her marriage with siddharth.
Their happiness was at its peak because they were going to marry the blessing of their life and alongwith this happiness there was a satisfaction in the mind and heart of rashmi's parents. They were feeling very lucky on getting a groom for their daughter who dont believe in dowry system, whose family has so high and noble thinking.

*After rashmi's marriage*

Rashmi just woke up. It was her first day in her In-Law's house. She was expecting a treatment where she would be given lots of love and respect but her mother-in-law came and scolded her brutally for sleeping so late and forced her to engage in household work.
And from that day the only thing she got there was just TORTURE, HUMILIATION and violence to force her to get money from her home.
But she never said anything to her family because she knew they wont be able to afford the demands of her in-laws.
After one year, when her tolerance limit vanished, she burnt herself to get rid of the everyday frustation by her in-laws.
The girl lost her life because of her marriage and her family lost the essence of their life

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According to Indian National Crime Record Bureau, in 2010, 8391 dowry death cases were reported across india, meaning a bride was burned every 90 minutes. According to Indian police, every year it receives over 2,500 reports of bride-burning. The Indian National Crime Records Bureau (NCRB) reports that there were about 8172 dowry death cases registered in India in 2008. Incidents of dowry deaths during the year 2008 (8172) have increased by 14.4 per cent over 1998 level (7146).
Why do boys' family demand DOWRY from the family of the girl. Are they selling their son, if so then their son should remain at the girl's residence and act like a servant. Can the family of the boy send their son to act like a servant for the whole life time.
Or they are demanding for DOWRY because their son is not able to fulfill the responsibility of being a husband? If a boy cant fulfill his financial responsibilities towards his would be life partner then he has no right to marry girl and ruin her life. Where is the self respect of the guy that he is begging for money from the girl's family. 
Even girl's family agree for DOWRY thinking it would help in keeping their daughter happy and blessed after her marriage but they remain unaware of the fct that by giving DOWRY they are themselves spoiling life of their daughter. And the basic question is why do they agree for DOWRY. They are giving their girl to another family for the whole life and giving money and materialistic things for that? WHY ? Is their daughter a burden over them? Are they giving DOWRY to get rid of the burden? 
NO.
Although there are rules and regulations regarding DOWRY PROHIBITION from the side of government but these rules are in vain if they cant be applied properly by common man.
This is high time when we need to change the circumstances and it needs efforts of everyone, efforts of boys' family by not demanding or accepting DOWRY, efforts of girl's family that they deny marrying their daughter in a greedy family for whom DOWRY is the cost of a girl's life and most of all their is need of efforts by us, by youngsters. We guys and girls need to take oath that we wont support DOWRY during our marriage and would try to make people around us also understand that marriage is a unison of two people, two families. 
Its not a BUSINESS and so let it be a sacred ceremony that fills happiness in people's lives and not fil their eyes with tears and heart with pain.

People here are saying that writing wont affect anything but we think that it can make a lot of changes, we can think we can first change ourselves and then inspire others for few steps of changes as initiative so that big steps can be provoked by these small changes. So whosoever agree with me, lets take a vow taht either a girl or a boy we are we wont support dowry in our marriages..

Aa_ku  (kuku)

Midday meals or a Death Deal???

The Midday meal tragedy which hit the nation last month was the burning topic those days..
But the question is till when would it remain a burning
topic..??..A week..a month..an year and than people as well as
the government would forget about it except those grieving parents who lost their children due to that poisonous food..Now..the government has come in action..enquires are being set on how..when and why this tragedy happened in Saran which claimed
the lives of 27 innocent children..
But..why these actions are always taken only after the tragedy happens..??..Isn't our government aware with the fact that "prevention is better than cure"..??

If they would have kept a regular check on this scheme than perhaps those children
would still have been alive and their parents wouldn't have been
left devastated..And its not just the story of one place..similar incidents came in
light after this tragedy..
In Odisha..a scorpion was found in the midday meal which led to 39 kids falling ill..This
shows the level of being careless by the school authority..how
insensitive authorities canbe??..You are serving food with scorpion??..
What level of hygenic standards do these school follow??..

The government says "Padhega India tabhi to badhega India"..but is only a tag line
enough for India's progress..? Don't you actually need to take
proper steps regarding India's progress?
Padhega INDIA tab jab bachega INDIA..

Compensations are being provided to the grieved parents but would it reduce their pain?
Money can never compensate the loss of loved ones..

Midday meal was a great initiative by the Indian government for imparting
education among the financially weak sector and serve them food
too but now its loosing is effectiveness and its high time
that government realises it!

- Sнєєяιи.

GIFT OF SMILE

I was standing on roadside stall enjoying paani- puri/gol-gappey. Just then a child of mere 9-10 years came to me and started begging. "Allah ke naam pe kuch de do bhaiya, 4 din se kuch khaya nhi h." As we so called high society people just throw them away. And same thing is applied on me. "Hurrrr.. Paise nahi hai, mere paas. Go." although i was enjoying my gol-gappey plate. "Bhaiya, ek aur plate banana." i instructed the vendor. That child was standing near me and was seeing me with moist eyes. I never saw someone so keenly. He was just doing two things. Watching me and then my plate. May be he was really hungry. But i didn't believed it. I was suspecting of him lying as he was in perfect attire of begging. And beggars most commonly lie to get some money in lieu of our sympathy. After watching me for a while, he went back and sat with a girl barely 6-7 years old. They both were exchanging some words and don't know why but girl started to shed tears. That was the time i felt i did something wrong by refusing that child. I noticed both of them. They were fragile and weak. Their skin colour was pale and i remember when i was a child, i used to be healthy and glowing. Infact, every other middle class family child is like that. They were poor i could sense that. But, their bodies were not as of some growing up child. The shape of their bones were visible very clearly under their skin. They looked as if they just had 1 cover of skin on their bones. So thin. I couldn't resist myself so i went to both of them and asked what happened. They both told me that they hadn't ate anything since yesterday . I asked about their parents to which they replied that their mom works as a vendor and from past few days, the selling had not been good so two square meals were very hard for them now. And their father would remain whole day in liquor intoxication. He was that typical husband who would take all money for his liquor addiction. I was shrugged away on listening this. I am one of the students who waste half of the money in tasting something and then throwing it because i didn't like it. I would throw my phone in anger irrespective of the damage caused to it. But, see these children. They suffer for each and every penny. I just had 50 rupees with me then as i spent all in my "Chamak-dhamak status". I took them to a nearby dhaba and made them eat whole heartedly. Seeing smile on their faces made me feel so happy and satisfy that it couldn't be explained in words. But, after biding them good bye i could thank god just for giving this day in my life where i could atleast do one job of feeding someone to the full. As it is said "Bhookhe ko ann aur pyase ko paani" is the greatest virtue you could do. I promised myself to atleast feed such children sometimes if i can't do it daily. And you all also, make it a habit to help the ones who actually suffer. I myself don't like to give money to beggars but feeding them with water or food may cost you some money but the happiness wrapped in it will be the cause of smile for you throughout your life..

"Aash"

Rape Cases Walk India To Shame

I was just going by the newspaper a few months back and what I read, sent shivers down my spine.
What is happening in this country? news of a 5-year old girl being raped. I was shocked. She was just 5, an innocent little child who had just started her life, her seed of life was just nurtured into little plant-tiny buds of her life just started growing and some idiotic sex starved jerk exploited her. It is shameful even after when the whole country protested against Damini's gang rape, this brutal practice still is on full swing.
Some cases come into the eyes of public and media while some are kept as a secret. Just because people think it will humiliate the girl. WHAT THE HELL IS HAPPENING?
Why are people keeping fasts for goddesses when they just can't even respect a form of her. What would happen to that girl? Or thousands of other girls living under this horror? Everyday she would feel as If those pests are eating her soul. She will die everyday. What happened to all her dreams? Her happy life? No body would even accept her. She loses even her family. Never ever would she able to trust anyone. All she could do is,live in the dark shadows and realize what those monsters had done to her.

Damini lost her life cuz of such monsters who didn't have a control on their hormones. A 5-year old is stuck between life and death.
Another story of A teenager who was raped by 4 men and then humiliated by the police when she went for help. All the police said was *Hamari salah hai in me se ek se shaadi karlo. Nai to beizzati ho jayegi* and she committed suicide. Damn. What is this?

A girl portrays so many roles. A mother, a sister, a beloved, a wife, and still she is treated like some piece of rag.
Why aren't the accused being punishment? Why are they still free? Can there be a bigger crime than spoiling the whole life of a girl? I'm ashamed of all of this.

I still remember a candle light march organised in my city to protest against rapes and when I heard some boys over there, I felt ashamed, ashamed of our country, ashamed of mentality of people.
1st guy : Bhai Rape Vape ka to chodo. Ladkiya dekho idhar. Hayeee!! Tota hai puri.
2nd guy : Sahi me Yar. Vo blue top vali dekh. Man karta hai abhi pakad lu.

If you are actually protesting, mean it, don't just come for fun. And in the end rather than controlling themselves and ensuring safety for women, all they say is *Girls shouldn't wear short clothes, she should dress up properly*
Well no it isn't so. This is 21st century. A girl has her complete rights. But because of some people and their mentality, rape victims lead a life no less than a brutal punishment and a lot others live under those scary shadows. Every bit of me aches to see such a condition of my country. It's high time people. Start respecting women because she is the one who gave you life.

- Pari <3